Sticks and Stones

Sticks and Stones

Sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me.

I work with young children and on a daily basis, I have children come to me and say, "David called me a liar or Tabi said I was ugly."

My initial response is, "Is what is being said about you true?" The response is always no. If what is being spoken about them is false then why do these words hurt?  Words, even when we are too young to understand them we accept them as truth. 

Sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me. 

Lies!!! There is so much power in the words that we speak. We embrace those messages with all of our hearts. Just like the children I work with, we hold on to words that were spoken about us and make them part of our identity. Have you ever stopped to ask yourself, “what does God say about me?”

Words. They take root, they sprout, and they hurt. 

The Bible says there is power in the tongue; we can either speak life or death. (Proverbs 18:21)  How often do you ponder on words that have been spoken into your life? They took root because you believed them. They sprouted because you entertained them. They hurt you because you listened to them. 

In order to heal from words spoken into our lives, we must start with forgiving those who hurt us. This is never easy but it is important. Confess your hurt to God so that bitterness does not take root in your heart. (1John 1:9) Identify sin in your heart so it doesn’t sprout and there is no room for hate to grow towards the offender. 

Dwelling on hurtful words is a choice. We play the words over and over in our minds and every time we do that we allow what was spoken to hurt us, again. Don’t consume yourself with what has been spoken to hurt you. God knows every tear you've cried. (Psalm 34:18) God understands and is there for you. Give all your sorrow and all the painful words over to God along with every memory attached to it. 

Instead focus on what is true and lovely. (Phil. 4:8) Look for God’s truth about yourself. What does He say about you? Well, He has a lot to say about you. You radiate light wherever you go (Mat 5:14) You are his friend (John 15:15) He loves you (Jer 31:3) You are valuable (Isa 43:4) Do you believe it? Will you reflect on these words the same way you reflect on what is not true? 

Grab a piece of paper, make a list of the words that have offended you. Some words will bring back pain but this is your moment to let it go. Label your paper, lies spoken about me. Write down all the lies that have been spoken into your life. Lies spoken about you as a child. Lies spoken into your life by a stranger. Lies spoken about you by YOU. For every lie, mend it with God’s truth. 

Meditate on God’s truth and let it be well with you. And when the enemy tries to remind you of the lies ask yourself just like I ask my students, “is what is being said about me true?” 

"Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones." Proverbs 16:24

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