Sisterhood. The relationship between sisters. An association, society, or community of women linked by a common interest, religion, or trade.
Friend, have you read/heard of the book series "The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants?" It’s a collection of novels written by Ann Brashares that tells the continuing story of four young girls who acquire a pair of jeans that fit all four of them perfectly even though they are all different shapes and sizes. This one pair of jeans conforms magically to the need of each girl. It’s a beautiful story because this one pair of jeans is what keeps them all connected.
Much like the perfect pair of jeans, in real life I aspire to be that pair of jeans to my friends, adjusting what is needed for each friend to accommodate and strengthen the friendship. Some friends may need more prayer, some friends may need more encouragement and some friends just need me to listen. In our social media obsessed world, it’s easy to confuse quantity of friends with quality of friends. God desires us to have solid friendships. I believe that there are several things that hinder us from having those deep and meaningful friendships that remain connected to one another. Things such as fear of transparency, allowing others to see our flaws to falling into the trap of busyness can cripple us from investing the time and effort to build good friendships that turn into a sisterhood.
Unlike that pair of jeans in the The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants, there is no magic, no hocus-pocus. It’s safe to say we have an array of eclectic friends of different ages, personalities and temperaments, much like the characters in the story I mentioned but the truth of the matter is that we are all already connected by one common thread, we are all made in the image of God. Here are a few biblical principles to becoming/remaining a good friend.
A good friend will…..
1. Take initiative. In Acts 18:1-4 Paul meets a fellow tentmaker and pursues a friendship with him. They had the commonality of the same profession and that was the initial bond that brought them together. Making new friends is scary and risky, but it can be so rewarding! Look for people that share your interests. If you have current friends that you’ve lost touch with, take that step and reach out.
2. Forgive. Colossians 3:13 urges us to forgive. Offense is bound to happen at some point, but we should never hang on to offense. We should remember how God has forgiven us and extend that same forgiveness to our friends.
3. Listen. As women we love to talk and we love to be heard! But when your friend needs to talk, you’d be surprised how your friendship can deepen when you just stop and listen. James 1:19 says it best, “everyone should be quick to listen”.
4. Zip it. Nothing can sting more than a confidence broken. Be a vault and a trustworthy friend. Unless your friend shares something that can harm her or someone else, keep those lips sealed. “A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy person keeps a secret.” Proverbs 11:13
5. Sharpen. The best kind of friend is one that isn’t always agreeing with everything, but nudging her closer to Jesus. Sometimes the sharpening hurts, but it’s what good friends do. Proverbs 27:17
6. Pray. Nothing can be stronger than the prayers of the righteous (James 5:16). When you take the time to lift up your friend in intercessory prayer, you are fighting for her in the spiritual realm.
7. Be there. Job was going through the worst trial of his life, losing almost everything he had. His three friends heard of his woes and made a beeline right by his side to comfort him (Job 2:11). Even if you feel that you don’t have the right words, your presence is more than comforting
Delia has been called a "Jack of all Trades". You can find her doing home DIY projects, teaching Zumba, cooking a gourmet meal or designing logos and taking photos. Above all these hobbies, Delia values her relationship with the Lord, her husband and kids and her closest friends above anything else.